Its been 1 year 8 mths since i got married. Adjusting to his shift schedules can be hard at times 😥
Now that he had been changed to 12 hour shift (previously 6 hourly) i dunno what to say about it.
I’m going to make this clear. No im not jealous of stay at home wife as much as i want to be one. I just prefer the ease of having my own money to buy things i want/need at anytime.
It makes me sad n hurt when i see couples go out on dates weekends and public holidays.
Recently my bro just got married. Both hubby n wife working 5 days a week 9am-6pm daily. So they make a point to go out on friday night and come home late till wee morning of sat. And today is a public holiday they went out again, except today they ask me n hubby if we would like to join them. I had to reluctanly say no, as hubby is working night shift:|…
Me and hubby we still go like as if we are still dating. Calling and texting while at work or basically away from each other. So hubby say good that my bro n his wife are dating out. Thats nice to spend time together. At that point i wish to punch his face. I got all fired up not angry just fired up. Telling him you say good for them then how about me? How about us? Public holidays and weekends are your working days. And im left at home to entertain myself:'(. What did he reply? He says when i bring you out for dates you get tired by 9pm why are you complaining…its you who is easily tired…
My reply to his attack… you date me out after my working hours… you know what time i wake up…i wake up at 5am end work ard 5-6pm… you date me out from 730pm… dont you think i’ll be dead tired then? Does it make sense that u date me out when im working the next day? When ive been working the whole day…while you catch up on your sleep and rest. You expect me to have the same energy like you?😭
How sad is that? How do you resolve that? I cant complain to anyone coz everyone knows him. They just dont understand the situation i am in. My husband himself dont understand me. How am i suppose to get support? Everytime we talk about work schedules we end up fighting. Hubby keeps telling me to accept his worklife. So nowadays i just keep quiet when he has a last min overtime to cover his colleague or when he has a family or “father and son” bonding even if we have already made plans…i always have to lose out. When i say always mean i really have been doing that all my life. Im not demanding person…im not a materialistic person. Im just 2nd or last in line.
Everytime i feel pissed or sad about this i end up searching for support msges in the internet. Reading about wives whose husband are working shifts. Its hard espcially hard when every husband is different.